Controversy FAQ Interview Question 19

What if a participant disagrees with a trainer?

We encourage that. It's not about the trainer. If they disagree, it's a sign that the training is working. It's a sign that there's safety enough in the room for somebody to feel safe enough to disagree, and that's great, because it's not about the trainer's ideas or enforcing his/her ideas. If people disagree, then we get to know what they're thinking. It's a great sign that people are beginning to feel that they have enough safety to think about anything, including and especially something they feel is wrong or sideways or out of integrity with the trainer in the room.

This question presupposes that somehow part of our agenda is to get people to agree with us and that's simply not our agenda. Our agenda is to support people in getting clear about what's important for them and to coach them towards having that happen with others. We're crystal clear that we don't go into a training with the awareness as to how that's going to play out; it's something that's created together in conversation. Therefore, our whole come from isn't about telling people what to do, our come from is about finding out what matters to them and coaching them towards that. And that is created together in conversation. We don't presuppose how that's going to happen because it's different in every situation with every person.

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